As some others have said, you've invested a lot in different theories, etc. It seems as if this consumes your every thought. I know you're doing a lot of good DBing stuff, but what about the GAL part? Stop analyzing W for a minute, an hour, a day.
You say you're giving her all this space and not pushing her, but if you really are thinking about all of this all of the time and monitoring her moods and words and behavior incessantly...than she has got to feel that. Maybe not consciously...but it's got to be there under the surface.
Maybe you should "drop the rope" in your head a little bit. I challenge you to write three posts today that have nothing to do with your wife. Who's your favorite football team? What was the first rock concert you ever went to? Ummm...if you could be any tree, what would you be? Just kidding on that one ;P
