Aussie Girl - Patience might finally be paying off

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Essie,

I have been reading and the conclusion I came to, is the same as T.. your ambivalence toward him is palpable in your posts, and maybe men, like dogs, can smell fear !? It just jumps out all the time that you are 'playing it cool'...and maybe that could be misinterpreted by him as lack of interest/passion.. or maybe it was before, when he first came back, took you to the opera and told you he loved you (?).. and I seem to remember that you didnt exactly fall into his arms, but kept up the cool, kind of "men love bitches" independent dbing strategy.

To be honest, I wondered at the time if that wouldnt backfire a little. And then you went and booked a big holiday over Christamas (is that right?) without asking him, again, very cool and independent actions... but mauybe he needed to feel you were glad and relieved and thrilled that he wanted you back? I donbt know as he is doing a pretty good job of being ambivalent himself!

So yes.. I thikn you should shake things up. I dont seem to be giving good advice lately in some sitches.. but it seems to me, if you arent sure you still want him and are vaguely considering D, mayne you should take some risks with him, what have you got to lose? Maybe try being less careful, follow less rules, speak from your heart...?

Hows things with you now anyway?

Al xxx