Even with everything gone, if she lets her mind go there, she has continuing WD over and over. I still have issues, though few and far between. It doesn't take much, really. Those TV shows are the worst. She's kinda just getting through the day right now. She hasn't done the work really needed, or had those needed talks with you yet. She's just running around "in her own head" right now and trying to get to a less emotional place about the A.
If you have this talk with her (SOON!) you may find yourself feeling like you are banging your head against the wall, and she may feel the same thing. This is the lack of communication. Then, in that conversation you point out that fact. That you feel like you are not being heard, and it looks like she feels the same way. Talk about that. Talk about how you can't have a good marriage if you can't communicate and ask her how to fix it. You have ideas as well to share.
