Ali--I think he would be like this with any trip. In fact I had offered previously to look into going someplace that he had been wanting to go, e.g. Morocco. He has never been one for planning trips, and I was sort of hoping he might take more of an interest in general, but I do think that he would offer a muted response regardless of the destination. I have offered so many easy outs of this trip over the past few days around money and the weather etc., that I really believe he would have taken one of them if he was opposed to going and could have done so without a big confrontation. He has certainly not been easygoing and accommodating throughout the last months, so I just have to believe that he would speak his mind, or go with one of the easy outs if he was opposed to going. I think what we can do though is very much play it by ear once we're there. He wants to spend more time in Prague rather than at the GF's house in the country, so if we go this route, those nights we will be alone; this will be my H's decision to make entirely and I will let him know that I want to go with what he wants to do. I have a strong gut feeling that he and my ex will get along really, really well. They are so similar in so many ways and my H is SO much cuter that he will not feel intimidated :). He may feel pressured to act more like a couple around my ex, but I will do my best not to add to this pressure. My ex is a very reserved person emotionally and physically, and I would bet money that he and his GF are not physically affectionate in front of people. Since H and I are getting along swimmingly, I don't think it will be too difficult to just act kind towards each other (fingers crossed).
NTL--thanks for the suggestion. I like the idea of more physical intimacy too. I think it can lead to increased emotional intimacy. It will take a bit of courage for me to try the massage bit, but this could be a good idea maybe a couple of weeks down the road after he finishes his exams...
All-I have heard from H again since I bought the tickets, just on other business stuff, so everything seems normal. I think he did all of his internal debating about the trip before he gave me the green light. I need to stop speculating and panicking. I think I will make things worse if I assume he doesn't want to be on a trip with me. At some point I need to trust that he actually is making an effort, and that he actually does enjoy my company. I also need to trust him to speak up and share his POV if he is unhappy with anything.
So tonight I have some team event and will be home a bit late. Actually one of us has something keeping us out late night every night this week. This is probably a good thing as we get closer to the trip...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
