TxMom, one of the DB coaches pointed me to a website that has some good articles on infidelity and healing. The website is http://www.beyondaffairs.com
I agree with PosMom. For anything he says just validate. If he says "The sky is green." "You say I understand you think the sky is green. I will need to think about the sky."
One other thing...he will be as nervous as you. In fact look for that...When he begins to discus what he wants to talk about...does he move too fast, movements too controlled, shaky hands, problems with voice, sweaty palms. If he is unsure of what he wants it will show in these non verbal clues. For instance if he begins to mirror you, he may be attracted to you or wants to agree with you.
No matter what...do just what PosMom said, "act 'as if' you're on a date. Be the best, prettiest, most charming self."
Also remember that nothing is ever decided in a single meeting. This one sounds like it is one where he wants to give you a list of demands. Take whatever he wants and tell him you will think about it and give him an answer in whatever time frame you want. You can decide when to have the next meeting and you can set the next agenda.
One last thought...think about what you need from him. Bomb him back if need be...but do it with a smile.
