It's Tx Mom.. 2nd thread.. trying to hold on...

[PositivelyMommy]

Hi {{{TxMom}}} Your thread in Infidelity locked so I wanted to answer it here. I hope you find it in time.

If he brings up anything you don't want to hear at lunch or that you are not ready to face yet, just say, 'Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me, I will need time to think this over.'

There's no rule that we have to agree and do everything they say. So honey, stall! Your DB coach is right, act 'as if' you're on a date. Be the best, prettiest, most charming self. Use that as a weapon to disarm him. And if he got the guts to drop another bomb, stall stall stall. Then act as if what he said is no big deal. Don't do the begging, crying, pleading thing again this time (180).

We are here for you. I know you are real nervous about this talk. He might want a D, but you know what, he can't get it in a week. So there really is no hurry for you to do anything. Just take your time and think things over.

If, on the other hand, he just wants to talk about schedule, then just do that and have some good food and enjoy yourself.

Don't panic yet. Keep your cool. Don't excessively worry about what may be the worse case scenerio. Better yet, how about you write yourself a list of the worse case scenerio for Thursday. Say, he serves you papers, then write down what you are going to do. Or he asks for the babies for Christmas and then write what you would say. Plan ahead so you don't get caught off-guard.

Then say to yourself, OK, if that is the worse case scenerio, and it's likely it won't happen, then you might feel a bit more calm. I know I'd feel better if I had a plan in hand. Just like a business meeting. Good luck!