Sometimes people think I'm being "mean." Well, sometimes being "nice" doesn't end up being so nice, for ANYONE, kwim??
Puppy
Originally Posted By: beej
Remember, as you make the decision to pull back for you and for your kids, that the hope is still there. Pulling back does not mean giving up.
She read your email and didn't write back or respond to it. If she wanted you to think that it was over, she most DEFINITELY would have written back to you stating so.
It's not over.
Pup, I don't see it as mean. You just calls it likes you sees it. I appreciate that. Then some sitch's are able to pull at your heart strings. I think mine is one of them.
Beej, maybe my wife is just retarded. I pray that what you see are good signs that there is still more than some kind of possibility, however I'm not going to try to read anything she does anymore. I keep doing it and doing it and I just keep ending up in the same place. Everyone knows that she should have made some big steps to me this past 30 days. I have shown her a lot of who I am and what she means to me, yet the vicious cycle continues.
What I felt in church and then to see the hurt in my little D7. I feel like it's my fault for her to feel like she does. I know its not true, but thats what it feels like. If I could just leave the wife to herself and only worry about me and not spend so much time together as a family, D7 wouldn't be so confused.
I'll let OM deal with the wife. And God. Good luck to them both.
No contact with the wife today. She called this morning and the girls were still getting ready, so we didn't answer. She left a message and called right back. She talked to the girls and then they hung up. On my way to work, I missed her car pull onto the same road as me as I caught a light behind one vehicle. She had just left off S14 at school and I wouldn't be able to catch her by the time she got onto the loop.
I went to pick up D11 first today at the apartment then we went to get D7. That way, I know we aren't caught at the apartment with the girls wasting time on this or that. D11 did talk to her mom about 30 minutes before I got there and the wife told her that she would call when she got home.
We had another Thanksgiving dinner tonight. Need to finish those leftovers. The wife called at about 7:45 while we were watching 'Santa Claus is Coming to Town' on tv. No one wanted to get the phone, so it went to VM again. I tell D7 to go get the phone. I call the wife for her and they talk for a bit. I hear D7 say something about, "I know. He picked up Amanda first."
They hang up and we finish our show and then to bed later.
Afterwards, I listened to the VM. Something like, "Hey guys, just wanted to tell ya'll I got home from work. Roger(her voice changed to serious), could you please have the girls call me. Talk to you later." She was supposed to get off at about 5:30. It was 7:45 when she called.
I love my kids. I love the wife too, but gonna have to put my version of Tough Love to work.
I bet everyone is taking bets as to how long I can keep it going.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
