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This date was planned before the OM sit came up. I have been debating what to do about it. W knows how I feel about OM.
I have all but stopped going out to the house. Can't stand the way it makes me feel. Stopped doing everything around there for her.Stopped paying any of the bills. No flowers in the bath room, no more laundry, dishes house cleaning, yard work etc.
If she wants that she knows what to do to get it back.
I told her that I can't wait around forever for her to make up her mind and that I need to move on. She knows I still want to work on 'us' but I need the space now.
The date thing comes from out caoch. We have had a deal that we date each other twice a week. Had gone pretty well up until three weeks ago. I refused to go out the past two weeks. She asked me out, first time she has taken the lead, so I thougth I would go and just have a nice time.
The date went well. she even insited on paying for the movie, then she asked if I wanted to go to the gym with her. No conflict so far so what the heck. Had fun there got a great workout as I was able to take my pent up feelings from the whole night and let them out in a productive way. she just thought I was in great shape:) One funny thing I did was have Christmas music playing in the car CD player. Not me at all!!! She picked up on that and asked what I was doing listening to this. Told her its my way of keeping a PMA, and its something different for me. She told me it freaked her out. I love mystery, she has now clue what to think.
As long as she asks me out I will go. As long as OM is in the picture I refuse to do anything for her. If she figures out she wants to start putting more effort into 'us' and boot OM I am willing to do more for her, a little at a time.
I know I should put my foot down harder but for me this is my baby step getting to the big one. So that kind of sums it up.
I am hoping that my changes and GAL will help her want to be with me agian and drop OM. I know the past few days have got her thinking and doesn't know what to expect from me. Everytime I have seen her in past three weeks I have been dressed in new clothes, not my usual denim pants and t-shrt. She even mentioned that she was perplexed by how nice I have been dressing. Told her got to look good for the ladies:)