she's out and has announced OM to all

[marriedCrazy]

yeah M, there are some mixed emotions; but definitely not paralyzing. Just keep reliving the last 8 months in my head sometimes thinking that if I had done some things different after her last A; we'd be in better shape. But who am I kidding, she doesn't WANT to be married anyway. She told me last night, that "some birds aren't meant to be caged." Pretty blatantly spells it out.

Thanks for the wishes. I believe we'll be fine in the end.

breakaway and Tawnya, thanks guys...

ILF, I hear ya. I'm working it and growing a set for the ride of my life.

[breakaway]

Just keep reliving the last 8 months in my head sometimes thinking that if I had done some things different after her last A; we'd be in better shape.

That's "Non" talk. You know that.

But who am I kidding, she doesn't WANT to be married anyway. She told me last night, that "some birds aren't meant to be caged."

Exactly...and where did she get that line?? <rolling my eyes> Poor birdie in a cage...gag.

[carpenter54]

MC

Don't square up to much financial stuff before you have some legal papers. You don't want to get left holding the bag with any debt and stuff.

[Molly44]

Poor birdie in a cage

It is all drama drama drama.

If she does not want to be caged, she may want to back off men for a while. Let herself breathe a little.

She must have the lowest of low self esteem. Sounds like she is allowing herself to be used by anyone interested. It is sad and definitely not sane.

[marriedCrazy]

MC

Don't square up to much financial stuff before you have some legal papers. You don't want to get left holding the bag with any debt and stuff.

Thanks for the advice. But this will help me in the long run; it helps her too but I'll take that hit if it helps me more.

[marriedCrazy]

Poor birdie in a cage

It is all drama drama drama.

If she does not want to be caged, she may want to back off men for a while. Let herself breathe a little.

She must have the lowest of low self esteem. Sounds like she is allowing herself to be used by anyone interested. It is sad and definitely not sane.

You know M, I posed that very question to her last night. She doesn't think that she needs any time for herself or any introspection. She's quit counseling and gone off the meds. Her words, "I'm the happiest that I've ever been."

[Amy M]

Morning, Tom!!! Hope today's a good day!

And, I'm pretty sure she's not "the happiest" she's ever been. But, what do I know...I'm sane!!11

Take care of you and those babies...

Hugs to ya!
Amy

[Tawnya]

{{Tom}} You know something interesting that didn't hit me until right now, my husband used that bird in a cage analogy last week when we were talking too..WEIRD eh how they all have the same monologue? He said something like "I feel like I've been caged up like a bird"..what the heck LOL!

Tawnya

[Babygirl]

morning tom. wow, alot has changed very quickly!! I am just offering you hugs and support and know that you did the best you could.
I hate that caged bird comment, sheesh, she has no idea what she is walking away from!!
have a great day!!
HUGS!!!!!!

[Little Engine]

I kinda feel guilty that I have my kids and you don't; kinda like survivor's guilt, ya know?

Shake that off and give your kids an extra hug! I am happy they are with you.

"some birds aren't meant to be caged."

What BS. We all know what is coming for her someday. She is going to wake up becalmed in a sea of regret!

Just keep reliving the last 8 months in my head sometimes thinking that if I had done some things different after her last A; we'd be in better shape. But who am I kidding, she doesn't WANT to be married anyway.

You know you can't do that, you did your best. Be proud of what you accomplished for yourself. You can't save her, just you and the kids and you are doing it.