Karen, You as well as all of my DBing friends are always in my prayers, but I'll say a specific little prayer for you.
You will do fine. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what a wonderful mother you are. I bet your lawyer will stump H with questions about the children's education and disabilities that you can easily answer. I'm sure he knows very little about their performance levels. He doesn't seem to be very hands on when it comes to their education.
When it comes to education you are an expert, after all you do have a teaching degree! When it comes to parenting, you are an expert at that too!
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon