I think the fact that your W broke off the engagement at one point suggests that she did really love you and wasn't just in it for the green card. She was ready to walk without the card.
I think you are right she wasn't in for it at the beginning for the Greencard and should've just let her go and not let me emoitons and broken heart get the best of me. Because people have said once interest is broken it's difficult to get interest back. She did break enagment off but she later told me that her parents convinced her to get married. So it seemed like at once the interest level was there but fizzeled off when engament was broken then forced into it by parents. Possibly after being forced and she didn't like the marriage thing she was probally convinced by her uncle to go forward and try to get green card to atleast get something out of it. Her uncle is mainuplative as others have said as well. After she received Green card that's when she first said she wanted the divorce, after that 2 more times and this time she filed for paper work. Once you receive green card it's bascically after that you can apply for yourself and don't necessary need husband to be at the interview just need to prove that spouse was abusive.
She would also tell our family and friends he did this and everything when I never told anything she did. That was another issue that I didn't like, you should do everything in your power to solve it yourself when you get others involued one side of the story is told and plus you are talking to friends/family so you get biased help.
Originally Posted By: Dudess
Okay, do you realize that you are telling WAW's what they "should" take into consideration and telling them what they shouldn't feel - don't get upset - even though you yourself are upset? What if she were to tell you to not get upset if you don't feel appreciated?
I understand that the person walking away has every right to be upset but what I'm saying is that if you do something to correct a flaw that the other person say's you have and you tell the other person what you are doing but other WAperson(not neccasrily wife) say's it's not good enough or is impervious about it, it would make the person doing the things to improve disappointed because whatever they are doing isn't working. I guess if the WAperson doesn't want to be with the person they left 100% and they have just given up and doesn't want to work out anything with the person that's another story.
I understand that cuss words are verbal abuse which both of us did. But also non-cuss words are also verbal abuse and I feel more hurtfull because they carry more meaning then a cuss-word. For example cheap ass, stupid, why do u ask such stupid questions as where F U is just something that is blurted out instead of thought out and instead of being meant to mean something. I'm sorry if my explanation was confusing, please tell me if you are because I want to try to understand this myself because 1 the biggest issues i see here facing ppl that have had there spouse walk away.
Some of the things I used to get mad is that she used to do many things with other people and not do things with me. Then said that I never do anything. I agree I didn't initiate things but whenever she said she wanted to do something I would be up for it.
Also before she used to let me go into her e-mail account and other accounts then all of a sudden stopped letting me in. That's just something that confused me and get a little supsious why all of a sudden. She used to say i would like my privacy that's fine but before she didn't. I would let her go into my e-mail account no questions asked because i wanted to show her that hey i don't have anything to hide and make her feel safe and trust me. That's what I wanted from her.
