I hope tonight's function was fun. I'm working on losing 10 lbs. to get under 195 and I've been denying myself beer until I get there as a motivator. If there is a bar, have a cold one or 4 for me, bro.
Your sadness is ok, Carlos. It is natural and probably has something to do w/ the holidays as well. Today was rough on me too b/c of what my XW said last night as well as my thoughts turning to Christmas. Christmas is such a family time, so when the family is fragmented, it is difficult and sad.
However, try your best to focus on the family time you do and will have. Make the most of it. A friend told me she thinks of the song "Cats in the Cradle" when she's w/ her kids so she doesn't neglect the time they have together. It is a good analogy and I use it myself when I have my D. Everything else I'm doing can wait when I have her.
Try to focus on that and it will help tremendously.
Finally, you realize your W has a good heart but is a mess in the head. That is my XW too. Sadly, the only real choice is to move forward w/ my life b/c to wait would most likely mean a lot of frustration which would only end in futility. The changes your W needs are not quick fixes, so you can still be positive about the future, but you have to make sure you are living the present at the same time.
If you stop and wait, you lose. No one wins, not even your W. The reason no one would win is b/c you would be the only one playing.
NW - Don't get too down on yourself for focusing too much on your W, b/c I did it for close to 9 months before the light went on in my head. Hopefully you can see the light sooner and start moving ahead for you. It is fun once you get here - and a huge relief.
