Letting go of the fears

[AmyC]

My understanding is that Ls make asking for EVERYTHING in the petition a common practice. This paves the way for maximum conflict and ensures a bitter 'contest'.

That's damn sure not how we do it at my firm.
If anything, my attorneys want everything hammered out so we DON'T have to go to court.

At any rate this is a moot point because Frank is not ready to file.


Frank,

There is absolutely nothing legally binding about you seeing an attorney and looking at your assets and getting a reasonable idea of what you could expect in the event of a divorce.

In fact, it's the smart thing to do.

For both of you.

Your wife has NO FREAKIN CLUE what she is entitled to but I guarantee you it's more than she's living with now so YOU REALLY NEED to find out where you are going to stand if worse comes to worse.

I think what you find out would be shocking to you both.

It might be beneficial for you to start looking at your sitch from a business standpoint.

Additionally, WAWs need all the shock value that a reality check provides.

Maybe get her one for Christmas...



Amy

[Sophie]

Sorry to intrude Frank...I was where you are and the advice Amy C is giving is...just what I needed.

Amy C....I'm in Va, too. I appreicate your straight forward insight. I especially appreciate how you've been giving Frank a view from the 'other side'...the WAS.

If you get a chance...come see me?

Again, Frank...sorry to intrude.

[ford]

Frank, I agree with the amy lady.

your business is finding it's grove again.

protect yourself.

[frank_D]

Additionally, WAWs need all the shock value that a reality check provides.

Maybe get her one for Christmas...

What would you suggest? I like to shop online at Amazon.com

Seriously, I'm ready to do whatever I need to do to set my own boundaries, and let her see more of the reality of what she's done to the girls and I.

No more 'strategies' other than helping to give her the 'lesson' in as nice a way possible. I got mine already.

[frank_D]

Ford, you need to call me sometime man.

[AmyC]

The word on the street is that ford needs to join facebook.

But we don't talk about him behind his back or anything.

just sayin'

[frank_D]

W took D13 to get glasses this afternoon. When she came back she thanked me for paying for them. I said "It's no problem, I need to take care of my girls, I'm their dad".

She got angry and said "I don't say things like that to you when I do things for them".

I realized that she took as me putting her down in some way. I wasn't, I just wanted to say that I take responsibility for the girls well being.

So, I told her that I didn't mean to make it sound like we're competing, and I also said that sometimes she does say defensive things.

so we fixed the issue

[AmyC]

Good.

Because your statement was condescending and yes you did mean to rub her face in it.

Yes you did, Frank.

Because you want her to feel bad and acknowledge & appreciate all that you do.

Now.

I'm sorry but that isn't going to happen on your schedule.

[frank_D]

No, nothing is happening on my schedule.

[AmyC]

Now you're just preaching to the choir, my friend.