Mike, Kerry, Donna, Ali, Kalni, Nut, bizarre, and RMG - Thanks for chiming in. I'm not going to say much if anything at all about it. She can talk, but I'll just move the subject over or do some combination of what you all suggested to let her know it isn't appropriate or more importantly, I no longer care.
I do agree w/ bizarre as I need to understand and establish better boundaries w/ her. I've got to say, I'm just a bit dumbfounded when she does this and I'm caught off guard. I know there should be NOTHING from this woman that should surprise me, but it still does. Oh, well.
She ended up e-mailing me today and apologizing for possibly overstepping her bounds. However, she said she thought she overstepped her bounds by asking about what we were planning on doing for Christmas and what the joint message on Santa giving gifts was going to be w/ our D b/c D and I will be flying to Seattle on Christmas Day.
I actually think we should be on the same page w/ these stories and I told her that. I mean if it is time to tell her the Easter Bunny isn't real, that should be something we both decide on, I think. Anyway, she was really sheepish in her letter and apologized and felt badly about asking what types of clothes I have at the house for D.
Again, I think it is necessary for her and I to talk about what clothes our D has where and what she needs. Since D spends the majority of the time w/ XW, I've sent her most of the cold weather clothes I have b/c they'll just sit here if I don't as D brings clothes w/ her whenever she comes over. I have the essentials, but I let XW have the rest so we could figure out a plan. Now she's apologizing for "prying" by asking about the clothes in my house for D. I don't think this is a bad thing to share info on. Am I nuts?
Anyway, what would have been great is if she would have said "I'm sorry for overstepping my bounds by telling you people like me and want me at work just to get you to react even though I divorced you and treated you like dirt just to avoid facing my own crazy, suppressed, childhood issues." That is what she should be apologizing for, not asking about Santa and D's clothing supply at my house.
Oh, well. I'll have a better chance of having ice water in Hell than seeing that one come around.
