I've Come Full Circle 22

[kat727]

Kind of a strange situation arose today. Tonight is ex's night with the kids. Well S13 is home sick, he's not going anywhere later. D10 has a Christmas performance tonight. My parents are going, his are not. Now he wants to know if I want to take her. I know if we see him, my parents will do their best to ignore him. This will be the first time they may see him since Thanksgiving last year. (He filed right after).

I will just go and not worry if he is there or not. He obviously is concerned about my parents being there because before I told him, he was all gung ho on taking her.

Just funny.

kat

[whatdidido]

Reality is going to suck really bad for your H. Here is one of many tastes he will have of it.

[kat727]

Ex was actually waiting to go into the auditorium before me but he saw me. he tried to sit with me and I said, "I don't think my parents want to sit with you." He then tried to sit on the other side of me and I said that was for my Mom. He seemed really surprised that I just wanted him to sit somewhere else. Sorry, I just didn't need the extra stress and drama.

The show was really sweet. My daughter got to stand next to her best friend and they were just too cute together. Ten is such a fun age.

kat

[Yoyowife]

Kat,
Wow!!! You go girl!!! He got a taste of what it is to feel shunned. You pretty much let him know that he may be the father of your children, but he is no long "part" of your family. I'm sure the look on his face was priceless when you let him know that you didn't "want" him around!

I'm so glad you got to enjoy the show surrounded by your loved ones. I bet the show was absolutely precious! I miss the days of elementary Christmas programs.

DD17 and her stepper teammates are working on their Christmas dance that they will perform at the basketball game on Monday night. She said it has so many kicklines in it that she feels like her legs are about to fall off.

Hugs, Yoyo

[karen43]

Kat, now I understand your worries about the bankruptcy!!! H is going to do that and foreclosure and he makes too much money for bankruptcy they said unless I file jointly with him. My L was saying how this couldn't have been avoided, but I said if we didn't have to live apart with double the expenses and $7 or $8000 in legal fees I think it could have been. H would just rather be bankrupt and foreclosed than marriage with me. Sucks!!! Karen

[kat727]

I am sorry that you know what I feel like. What happens if you don't go along with the bankruptcy? I had the exact same thought when ex did this...he would rather go through all this cr@p than be married to me. Doesn't do much for the ego.

Well, I just set another appointment for the bankruptcy attorney for next week. Have to go over ex's bankruptcy form that was mailed to me.

Do you remember that article that has been linked to several threads? It talks about the different types of affairs. The romantic affair will destroy everything and take everything available until there is nothing left for it to take. That is the one my ex is in. Everything is destroyed in it's wake.

At first I thought he was doing this to me but I realize that really it has nothing to do with me. It all has to do with him and his being so self-centered now. Our family doesn't mean enough for him, nothing means enough but this affair and he is simply feeding it.

kat

[Sugar and Spice]

Do you remember that article that has been linked to several threads? It talks about the different types of affairs. The romantic affair will destroy everything and take everything available until there is nothing left for it to take. That is the one my ex is in. Everything is destroyed in it's wake.
At first I thought he was doing this to me but I realize that really it has nothing to do with me. It all has to do with him and his being so self-centered now. Our family doesn't mean enough for him, nothing means enough but this affair and he is simply feeding it.
kat

You hit the nail on the head Kat. Mine is in the same type and it is all consuming until there is nothing left.

Hope DD performance went well and it was interesting to read about him expecting to sit with you. Good for you and in turn good for him. Consequences...

Just wanted to stop in and see how you were.

[karen43]

Wassup with Hancock? I'm doing better after a good cry, so if you want to watch it another night I'm fine with that too. My big brother called tonight (knew it was my hearing day) and I wound up missing the 1st part of TKD and didn't go late. They kind of frown on that (make you do pushups!) and to be honest I was crying from 5 to 6 and that prob. would have scared the kids. I will def. go to book club tomorrow. They finally started one in my little town and they're having the 1st night tomorrow and will pick out books. So something to look forward to. Karen

[kat727]

What ever you want to do Karen is fine. No late fees so I can keep as long as I want. We could even watch Friday if you want. I am so sorry you are going through this. I would do anything to keep everyone from going through the pain I went through. Stay strong. Let me know what you want to do.

kat

[karen43]

Maybe we should do it Friday night so we can chat after and not be exhausted the next day??? H picks them up about 7:00 so anytime after that's great!!! No matter how much I economize I'm determined to keep Netflix!!! Karen