Well we solved the how do I bail out of a situation in public question. We have devised a code whereby if one of us would rather leave they say - but remind me to phone my parents. This is the signal and we won't confuse it especially as H barely ever phones his parents, and if I ring mine I don't need H to remind me - LOL
That one is solved I hope! H is also selling his Lotus Elise!!!! I cannot tell you how amazed I am by that, it was in fact an argument over selling this car which he has clung on to without ever driving it or taking care of it for more than 4 years that finally prompted him to walk out in April.
Now his brother has had custody of the car for over a year and taken really good care of it, practically rebuilding it replacing every bolt with non-rust alloy etc, so finally H has decided to sell it to him
I really think this is a great solution because it keeps the car in the family so he can still borrow it from time to time. There is some weird emotional attachment to the car which I can't begin to understand. I think it is some sort of MLC thing. I found it quite difficult to know how to react to the news. I was happy of course but tried not to show it too much and I gave him a hug and sympathised with him about parting with it.
He said you can't have two kids and a sports car. So I just made a joke about selling the kids. The fact is I wanted him to sell it before the kids were even thought of because he hardly ever drove it and it is a hobby car that you can't just ignore, he never tinkered with it at all and it was soooo expensive to maintain.
I wonder if he decided to sell it because he realised that otherwise it would forever remain a bone of contention between us. That's very generous of him if so
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
