I had one of those really bad days today. I had several dreams about exW last night. Then, I could not shake thoughts of her all day. I tried to refocus several times; it did not work at all. I feel like there is a reason for this. I am not sure exactly what it is. Such is life....
Take Care,
RMG
Last edited by RMG77739; 12/03/0801:09 AM.
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
Dreams are our minds' ways of processing all the thoughts that we create/have while we are awake. It sounds like you are coming upon another "aha" moment really soon. What were the dreams like?
Do not be too upset by it; try to step back and see it from a scientific, observer standpoint. It might help to redirect that way.
What CAN the dreams mean? Dump them here and let's see what we can come up with...
The crazy thing is she and I were just doing everyday stuff together..... I cannot remember the details... We were not doing anything romantic.... I woke up feeling pretty good... Then, my day nosedived...... I tried everything I could to shake thoughts of her....
The thing that really sucks is my new job is directly across from a place she temped at... I used to pick her up there for lunch...
I guess I am processing everything still... Thanks for posting....
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
I appreciate the encouragement... You are very correct.... I felt like I took several hundred steps backward... I actually started thinking about her and had one of those moments where I had to fight back tears..... That is so not good... Tomorrow is a new day....
Take Care,
RMG
Last edited by RMG77739; 12/03/0801:58 AM.
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
Sounds like you were reacting to the sitch of having the daily reminder, working across the street from a trigger. It is an adjustment...maybe you are trying to overexpose so that it isn't a trigger anymore. Preparing for the chance you might actually run into her (which your conscious knows is unlikely, but your subconscious doesn't trust it. That would be a guess.
I am so sorry that you had a hard day like that. I hope that you notice that the recovery time from these feelings is faster, and that they come up less frequently. We all understand, and have had those times, too. (((((hugs)))))
Is Sam Adams Octoberfest available year round here? If so I'll have a tall one. If not, a Miller Lite will do...
RMG,
Donna is right, they get less and less frequent. Take it for what it is, that you can't help but shake all of her from your mind. I know that I've always had to spend a lot of time surpressing my waking thoughts and dreams often catch you off guard. The more frequently and successfully you supress your waking thoughts will help push the dreams out. At least has worked for me.
Also, I remind myself why I am divorced, the things that happened to me and the stuff that the unwilling went through because of her. That tends to take the wind out of my random thoughts!
Steve, I did that. Actually wrote a list of all the bs he pulled to take out and read when my head started to romanticize him again. On the surface it seems like self-torture, but it got my head to stop spinning when I realized that it was stirring old crap up again.
