Fran,

I think you are showing me my future. I can totally see H and I having the same issues. We got into this mess because he THINKS he told me something but I did not HEAR/LISTEN. He has told me he only wants to say something once. I totally feel for you!!

Overall, I still see more positives than negatives. I think a good book for H to read if he is interested would be HIS NEEDS/HER NEEDS OR THE 5 LL.

Keep doing what you are doing. Only your H can decide to be honest and open about his true feelings when he is ready. We will NEVER be mindreaders. nik