Grief really is a process. We can try to rationally pick our way through the process, hoping to subvert steps along the way, but I honestly think that we all eventually pass through each of those stages.
Again I tell you my friend, eventually as the divorce process unfolds and decisions are finally made, you will reach a point where you are no longer dealing with conflict in YOUR home everyday. You will be amazed at the healing power of peace. There is incredible satisfaction with finally being able to move FORWARD with your life, something that is incredibly difficult for you right now while you share a living space.
It will be rocky at first, figuring out how to balance each of your roles in terms of the children. And there will be nights that you will grieve all over again just thinking about not being able to be with your children whenever you want. But the power will come from the fact that you are once again living.
You know that you are a fine man, a wonderful physician, a loyal and supportive friend, and a committed father. Never allow the rough times to overwhelm you to the point that you begin to believe anything but good will once again be in your life. Good people survive AND thrive because there are not nearly enough of them in the world.
So grit your teeth my friend. Put an end to the self-recriminations. Set your eyes on the future and begin thinking about how you will make your new life full and vibrant.
I pray for peace and rest for you every day my friend.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
