Separate note...W is going to see the MC by herself tonight. My plan for the moment is to let this happen and then give her the letter I've written setting boundaries including no contact during the first joint MC session.
J,
Maybe it's just me, but if I were your wife, this would feel like an "ambush" to me.
PDT, good point. When should I give her the letter? I think it is important to get her into MC. The MC is very experienced at handling each of us seperately before she brings us together. Hopefully the MC can establish trust with W first.
The DB coach said I might wait to send it until she actually does something to move out or proceed with the D.
Don't get me wrong, having a 3rd party like a good MC is a great way to have a neutral "arbiter" in the room when dealing with difficult subjects. But they should be subjects largely ALREADY ON THE TABLE, i.m.h.o., and not an ambush of something major.
Puppy and/or Wdid, wanted to ask. Have you seen cases where the MC was able to help a WAW end the relationship with the OM? This is a pro-marriage counselor. I was thinking that I don't see a lot of help from MC on these boards.
