Thanks, I now what you mean. I have become a lot more empathetic as a result of this and the kindness shown to me by all of the people here, including you.
I have also noticed chinks in the armor of couples I once thought had it all. Once one goes through something like this and then notices all of the things one could do better in a relationship, the way others behave around each other becomes a lot more revealing than they realize.
Got to find a way to distract myself tonight and try to restore a little PMA.