Creeping through no man's land

[ACJ]

Thank you Mojo for your 'random' thoughts. I do appreciate them.

I've seen OW as merely an object for a long time and in the last week or two have been getting better at seeing H like this.

You are right about the choices. However with my S16 I have been supporting his decision to live with his dad and it hasn't got me anywhere other than to see less and less of him. He only arrives on my doorstep when he wants something, usually money. Ok in one way as his parent that is what I am there for BUT I think it's important that he learns that it has to be a two way street b/c that is what life is all about.

The photographs are done, dusted and ordered. I have ordered a different one for the girls to give to H than the one I have ordered for myself. In the end I did choose one that had them and me in it b/c it was the nicest one and also I decided that I needed to show the girls (esp D13) that they do matter and that this isn't just about S16.

S16 has not been in touch and neither have I. This isn't a permanent thing on my behalf just long enough to show him that what he did hurt a lot and he has to learn that bad decisions incur unpleasant consequences. Interestingly D13 hasn't heard from H this week (he usually invites her for tea on a Monday night) so I'm guessing he is punishing me through her. Unfortunately for him she doesn't seem bothered that she hasn't been as all she does when she goes (in her words) is to watch/help H cook tea, play fight with S16, watch S16 and H play fight, eat tea and come home. He clearly isn't making any effort with her.

It's now been about 3 weeks since I last heard from his L. Considering I had to give them an answer in 24 hours as H is so desparate for his money you would think I'd have heard back just as quickly. It's peaceful when there is a lull like this but it also makes me nervous about what H might be cooking up next.

BM and TL thanks for your good wishes.