Detach>Worse>Weird>Better ???

[Sophie]

Thank you guys, for being patient...I think I can outline a little from last weekend, and as always, love your insight.

Wednesday, my L called me/ and filed my 'Answer' to H's 'Complaint.

I'll just list the parts I 'denied'.

A)
H:complaint>>states we lived separate and apart, continuously, wihtout cohab, for a period exceeding one year. That H had the intention to remain permanently separated since the beginning of seperation.

ME: states that I cannot admit or deny what H's intention was and therefore denies his statements. Also, that I did not ask him to leave and did not want him to leave.

B)
H:Complaint>>H states 'no reconciliation is probable'.

ME: states that I DENY this allegation.

C)
H:Complaint>>H states best interest of minor children require he be considered for the responsiblity of ther care and custody.

ME: states I deny the allegation.

D)
H:extra paragraph 'prays' that he be granted:
* responsiblity for care and custody of children;
*that spouse will pay support the care of the children;
*that he be given all rightsand remedies of equitable interests in the marital debts and assets;
*that he be awarded his attorney fees and court costs;
*and for other and further relief as the court deems necessary.

Me: Defendant prays the court protect her interests;
*grant her all rights and rememdies associated with assests and equitable interests;
*that she be granted custody of minor children;
*that she be granted child support;
*that she be granted spousal support;
*that she be granted her attorney's fees and cost;
*and for such other and further relief as this cause may require.


So...we want this to imply that a divorce is his sole decision, that I don't agree but if he pursues, I will counter on grounds of desertion (in VA). ((There are other things that have not been shared with H's L, yet))

My L said that our intent would be in his phone contact with H's L.

I don't know if H's L forwarded this information to him on Wednesday before Thanksgiving...but,

H bailed on us last minute, Thanksgiving noon.


Friday....nothing....

Saturday, s10 had a soccer game. One of the soccer mom's was gossiping about us right in front of me...that bugged!!

Anyway, H showed up. I couldn't look at him, but d8 was talking to him.

Eventually, we were standing about 5 feet apart, I squinted my eyes and slowly rolled my eyes toward him...he was staring at me and cracked a smile.

He asked where s13 was. I told him relaxing at home.

H asked if I wanted anything to eat; maybe a beer (jokingly).

I said, beer would be good if it wasn't so early in the day.

H was nervous/flirt like. (WTHeck??)

H bought me a hotdog and a drink and was super easy to be around and talk to. (WTHeck??)

H, d8 and I watched the game like 'a happy-happy family'...

AFter the game, H walked us to the car, made an effort to say good bye to me. H followed us in his car and went back to his work.

It's Tuesday. I figure, he's heard of, and read, my answer to his Complaint.

I feel relieved that my 'duty' is done. I have answered, but I have not engaged in any 'war' or taken any steps to get a divorce.

But...

I feel like a 'sitting duck',...I DON"T ever want to hear from my L again...those legal papers are hurtful. It hurt MY feelings to read my answer!