She tells me she at the laundromat doing her laundry and how hard her day was at work and she is ery tired. Then she asks me is SAW V playing still in the movies. I do a quick check online while I talk to her and tell her no.
RESCUING.
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She goes too bad would of been nice if we could of go se that tonight.
Should have said something like "Sounds like fun. Look, I hate to cut you off, but I have to go (fill in GAL stuff here). Talk to you later!"
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We talk about all kinds of things ...
WHY?? I thought you were trying to detach, and distance yourself from her???
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As she gets to her place she says damn I forgot to get me a cookie and cream shake from Jack in Box. I go oh you want me to go get it and bring it to you. She goes no that wouldnt be fair.I told her no problem and was on my way getting it without telling her.
RESCUING -- and PURSUING.
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We continued talking as I drive to get it. I ask her as I was in the drive thru does she want anything else and she goes oh you getting i and I say of course. She goes no just the shake. I bring it to her
PLACATING.
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We talk some more and my wife started flirting with me while we were watching TV.
WARNING! GET OUT! GET OUT FAST! ABORT MISSION!!!
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Needless to say we had sex that night and my wife gave me a Hugg and said Good Night.
Too late. Ugh.
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I drove home only stay 5 minutes from her with a smile.
I'm glad you had a good time. I know you probably need it. It also ISN'T helpful, and likely set you back. You've got to get your emotions in check around her, and if you can't, then don't allow yourself to be alone around her for awhile.
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We went shopping and had an awesome time and spend Sunday together from noon till about 8pm. I drove her home and she said good night. Now here it is Monday how do I act and what do I do this was so fast and unexpected that I dont want to mess this up please give me some advice I been known to open my big mouth and say the wrong things.
Garry, that depends on what you want to accomplish. Do you want her to want you again, as a husband, or do you want to be her gay boyfriend?
I know that's harsh, but she's doing a few things here, as i see it:
1) Trying to "normalize" her adulterous relationship -- to make it "OK" with you.
2) She misses your friendship
3) She possibly misses you sexually
4) She's playing you; quite literally, having her cake and eating it too.
What DO you want to accomplish at this point???
I'm sorry to be blunt, but I'm in a hurry and saw that you were looking for some advice.
