You've gotten the ball rolling....now just let things settle for a while. The holidays are stressful anyway, so I don't think you need to fan the flames just yet. Get through Christmas...be the pleasant, charming man we all know. Don't initiate any R talks...just be you! Let her see the changes in you....not just the room....but in you!
Hugs!
BA
Me:43 H:48 M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs 2 kids ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07 H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08 Affair continues Back home but not emotionally