I read your sitch and I so know how you feel! The OW in my sitch was my H's secretary (so cliche!) and we commuted together for 2 years. We teased each other that she was his "work wife". (28 year old skinny blonde!) I bought her the gifts my H gave to her for her birthday, Xmas, baby shower.....When she had problems in her marriage, I talked to her and supported her and gave advice. We even went to parties at her parents house!
I don't understand how these women life with themselves!
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd