I was also confused by the ipod thing...I thought it was more along the lines of "is that an ipod in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?" kind of thing...
Not much to report. H and I exchanged an e-mail yesterday (you can probably guess the contents), except that H didn't complain about his work and told me he went shopping on Saturday. It was an odd e-mail, anyway, but it's good that he's busy so I replied to that effect this morning and told him an amusing story about CEO offering rich girl (his PA) to one of his friends for s*x. That probably doesn't sound funny but we were all crying with laughter over it in the office yesterday afternoon.
Hey Lisa... So that is interesting, that he texted you Friday night and Saturday, also that he let you know he wasnt doing his 'usual' Friday night out with the aub/colleagues?? I wonder what happened on their holiday then (I know you are trying not to, but I am wondering!).
I was amazed that he not only got you a christmas present (!!?) but also that he told you.. as you do that to people you really care about, as you are a little excited abot what you bought them. Also, it implies he warned you in a way so as to get him one! A 180 would be, to not get him one!!! Let him give you his, but just say, wow, thanks! Ha, only kidding, I am sure you will want to get him something. It also means he is hoping or expecting to see you over the Christmas period, which is also interesting.
It is amazing that there is still so much contact and depth of emotion between you, despite the time that has elapsed since S. But then, people can reunite after 30 years and all the feelings are still there right..
So what was odd about his last email? That he told you he was by himself Saturday?
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
It is very interesting that H got you a gift?! You are still occupying space in his heart and mind...that is a good thing!
I feel your frustration and know how hard it is to continually carry on when you are stuck in the middle of such a mess...it's almost as if because H can't make up his mind, that you can't truly make your mind up either....at least that's how I feel in my sitch....I'm emotionally (I think) prepared for the worse and then my H surprises me with a word or action to contradict his actions and words to me....leaves me hanging so to speak....this can be really frustrating!
Hang in there....look at where you are today compared to a year ago...
Keep up the DBing, the PMAing, the GALing...be yourself...be the beautiful woman we all know and love...
Hugs!
BA
Me:43 H:48 M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs 2 kids ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07 H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08 Affair continues Back home but not emotionally
I hope you are having a cozy tuesday/wednesday. I'm excited that H is getting you a gift!! The dress is super hot!! I like this category of saucy office wear!
thank you for all your help on my thread. You are such a loving friend!!
Gosh, you guys are more excited about H getting me a present than I am. Let's see- I'll get him something, but I think it'll just be a small thing, a scarf or a top or something. Maybe I'll wrap one of his tops that I have here and give that to him- at least I know he'll like it!
Michelle- thankyou!
BA- yes, it's the odd suspicion that maybe something's changing for him that's frustrating. Thankyou for the reminder on GALing and focussing on me. I needed that today.
Ali- his e-mails just read a bit differently- it's hard to explain.
Lovely- I'm glad you liked the dress, but unfortunately I might have to take it back. it doesn't seem to fit at home like it did in the shop!
So H and I have exchanged an e-mail every day this week. His tone is still a bit different (to e-mails of the past year, anyway). He's not complaining as much maybe, and he's busy at work. Today he sent me a follow-up e-mail to the first with a football quiz in it.
We're not going for a drink this week- he said he was thinking Monday or today but he forgot he had a work do on tonight and worked late on Monday. He suggested next week to 'definitely' go for a drink. I replied validating him being busy and hoping he'd have a good time tonight, and gave him an option of an evening next week for a drink. We'll see. It'll be straight after a conference H, CEO and I are all going to. That'll be interesting- last time H and CEO met, CEO was distinctly frosty to H and vice versa.
So, CEO and I exchanged a couple of Shakespearean insults today, which was fun. At one point we he said 'I know you think I'm an old man' to which I replied that I thought he was busy, not old. Maybe a touch of paranoia there, or maybe I'm doing something that makes him feel old (I'd only offered to format some slides for him as he told me he was really busy). How do you make a man feel young, anyway? Later on as we walked to the underground he was telling me that he's really tired and stressed. I think he needs someone to talk to about it so I tried to listen and validate, but I had to leave when he was mid-flow which was a shame.
Anyway, I'm the only one in the office tomorrow so it's going to be an easy day. I might go to the shops for a bit, although we're expecting snow tonight. If that happens I'm staying at home!
((((((Lisa)))))) Maybe you could get him music for his iPod? Or a deck of cards.... Certainly not socks!
It seems the dress should fit, maybe you need some help with the zip?
It would be fun to watch your H and CEO interact again. H might get a little sense of what he is losing, I think. Even if CEO doesn't say or do anything, I think there will be some "energy" to be sensed.
I know how you could make me feel young.....
SNOW? What's the world coming to? Have a great day tomorrow!
