Thanks I feel better I am trying to look past the emotion and make good decisions. I can see the merit in not talking to my MIL i probably should have stopped that along time ago but I felt at the time it was nice to get the support. From now on I will treat her as I would my W. I guess I will be DBing with my W and MIL. I will still meet her for tea but not talk about the R with her. She may report back to my W that I am GAL and at this point that's all I can do.
My W called this morning with new numbers for the house. She is trying to get the best Deal for herself. On top of me paying her out the equity in the house she now wants me to pay a portion of the home owners insurance she will have to pay because of the high ratio mortgage ( you have to pay it in Canada if you have less than 25% down), half the land transfer tax of the place she will buy. I am crunching numbers. On one hand I just want to tell her that she walked out therefore I shouldn't pay her anything else other than the equity. But..... I know that will start a fight. I am going to have to negotiate calmly but I don't feel that I should have to pay her any more money. I guess I have to walk that line of being firm but not mean and not get walked on.
I have to be in the position to walk away. If we both walk away we won't get much right now because of the market. She can't afford the house. I wish we didn't have to do this but I need to take care of me right now.
Jeff
ME 44 W 32 M 5 T 6
no kids
June 08 I don't want to be married it's not you it's me
