Divorcebusting.com  |  Contact      
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 6 of 7 1 2 3 4 5 6 7
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,621
K
Member
OP Offline
Member
K
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,621
We may be feeling all to aware of the flaws within a situation. Or a piece of information thats almost too shocking to begin to comprehend. If we are able to find a way to accept what is, good and bad, and recognize that these are both labels of the mind. Be honest about your needs for greater expression and freedom and be willing to think around the bend. An intuitive flash of inspiration may just be the solution we are looking for.


This was in today's astro. Reflective of planets motion right now. Kinda fits all of us for the last week. This stuff always amazes me.

Ali, I read about your Friday and just didnt' knwo what to say. I'm sorry it wasnt as good as you hoped but you know what is coming. You know you have to go with it. Didn't get to crazy for me or maybe I just feel that way cuz of a calmness about the whole thing. I don't know. H and I have reached a mutual place of understanding and are moving forward as friends. I guess maybe it did get a little crazy. Just keep going, make Ali happy and accept what the near future holds.


If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 2,991
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 2,991
wow Kel it sure does hit us all head on doesnt it? thank you for looking that up for us!! you da bomb baby!


M 36
XH 34
3 children
If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25
"your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight
ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010

Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,621
K
Member
OP Offline
Member
K
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,621
Thanks honey. I check it everyday for all of us, and the general, but don't usually put here. That was kinda impt though cuz it has been exactly what is going on. Wierd huh?


If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Joined: Sep 2008
Posts: 1,623
M
Member
Offline
Member
M
Joined: Sep 2008
Posts: 1,623
Hey BG- I believe you get the most shocking information, and Hope is right there with you, and I do think that it pertains to all of us! WOW Kel. It is very amazing.


Finding My Yellow Brick Road....
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 2,991
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 2,991
yea sadly so, and today is hard, i am not handling things very well. i havent been away from him on my bday for at least 6 years.
mostly it hurts so bad, because the only thing i could not do for him was give him a child, and we tried many times. i was hoping a week today would help this pain.


M 36
XH 34
3 children
If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25
"your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight
ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010

Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,621
K
Member
OP Offline
Member
K
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,621
Yes BG really got the biggest news. but she can handle it just like the rest of us


If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 2,991
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 2,991
well i wish i was as confident in myself as you are K.


M 36
XH 34
3 children
If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25
"your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight
ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010

Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 5,270
A
Member
Offline
Member
A
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 5,270
Yes, I agree.. I wish I had your philisophical outlook Kel, how do you do it!? I'm not sure I do know whats coming up and if I try and imagine, it still fills me with some dread, but not as bad as before. He's already gone afterall. Yes, Priya was spot on again today. How does she do it !?


Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
my thread
Joined: Oct 2008
Posts: 93
T
Member
Offline
Member
T
Joined: Oct 2008
Posts: 93
I haven't been around for awhile. I've been sorting things out, but when I had a look at this post "K" I am amazed at how we have ended up in about the same place in our journeys.

H is still living at home with me and everything is peaceful, but I have accepted that I have been replaced. And intellectually and spiritually I'm OK with it because I have come to believe that everything does work out.

My H is still showing no signs that his feelings for me have changed for the positive or negative. He's just there. Mostly in his cave with his sports and texting his girlfriend.

But I've had a turnaround. I believe that life is preparing to open a door for me and perhaps all this stuff with H was just him preparing me to walk through it. I've just starting keeping my eyes open for that door.

I recently sent him a communication asking if he ever intended come back. If not, I will start looking at a lot more doors as possibilities.

I honestly believe that there is a partner out there who will care, love, and respect me. Someone who wants to hear what I have to say. Someone who gets me. I suppose there is still a chance that this will be him, but if its not...I'm not afraid anymore.

I think that's the biggest difference in me...a lack of fear and an optimism about the opportunities that life has in store.

Regarding astrology, I also follow Priya and I've done my horoscope and this is so in sync with all that. This is a time of endings and there will be major beginnings coming up.

I still hope that H is in there somewhere, but I'm not anxious about the fact that he might not be. [although there still is a little rush of irritation when I walk by him and see him texting. Hey, I'm only human].

Glad you're doing so well. Peace is a grand thing. Perhaps the best thing.


Married - 19 years
Noticed Problem - Aug 2008
THE Conversation - Oct 2008

The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,621
K
Member
OP Offline
Member
K
Joined: Aug 2008
Posts: 1,621
Thinking,

Isn't it wierd how nice the calm is. Yes I still hold a little hope but I can't let it rule me anymore. And yes, you will find that someone. There is someone for each of us that we will click with in a way that is fantastic. Someone who will make us think, who will challenge us to be ourselves, and accept us for that. I'm glad you are doing well also.

Ali, how do I have such optimism? Because I finally found me again. Because I honestly believe that everything happens for a reason. I have found that when I stop analyzing, thinking, and just live, while being true to what my heart wants, everything is ok. There is the key. Listening to your heart and following it no matter what obstacles your brain or life put in front of you. My life has taught me that I can do whatever I want, survive anything that comes my way no matter how difficult it is. I used to have the "negative" pictures of the future. But I let them go. It is a very hard thing to explain except that maybe it was a matter of getting out of my head.


If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Page 6 of 7 1 2 3 4 5 6 7

Moderated by  Cadet, DnJ, job, Michele Weiner-Davis 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Michele Weiner-Davis Training Corp. 1996-2025. All rights reserved.
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.7.5