Went to my Krav Maga class tonight. W called three times to find out where I was...complete 180. She was upset but she would not say anything. When I got in she decided to go out "shopping." I told her to have fun and gave her a list of stuff D7 and I needed.
She was trying to see if I would react. It felt pretty good to see her off balance.
PM, I have thought about it and discussed with both the DB coach and my attorney. They both agree it is the best approach. If she does not stop contact with OM, I will embarrass her and do everything in my power to obtain custody of D7. D7 will not be raised, even part time, in an environment where she sees her mother have OM. Even in Texas we can have stipulations about D7s exposure to W's OM.
Based upon her extreme worry of you "outing her", I think it is a good view to have. She needs to be snapped out of the fog or it will be a long, long road. Make sure you have all ways of knowing where she is at all times (Puppy will help you with how to do this), and be prepared for extreme withdrawal and possible slip up. At the same time, make sure she agrees to REtrouvaille, counselings, book reading/discussions, etc.
We will be here for you. Let me suggest you move to the Infidelity Forum once this thread locks. Lots of support for you there.
Really, Superstar? So....if JWM drops off his child and sees OM there, he can't just turn around and go back home stating that the OM is there and that is the reason? Or, if he finds out OM is there, he can't send the police there to ask him to leave (so that it is on record)?
I would think he could get a TSO. And some period (6 months?) of no contact between the children and any BFs/GFs is usually part of most divorce decrees.
Actually my attorney said we can have a court approved stipulation in the pre and post divorce decree, but it is difficult to enforce. It would only allow me to drag her into court to discus with a judge...something that she probably won't want to do.
I understand that on a practical basis it just sets the boundries related to OM in the divorce decree.
Separate note...W is going to see the MC by herself tonight. My plan for the moment is to let this happen and then give her the letter I've written setting boundaries including no contact during the first joint MC session.
She seems to be down this morning...she went out last night and did go shopping...she did not have much time to do much with OM if she saw him. Me being upbeat instead of down really puts her off.
I'm going to the cross-fit class tonight. Total 180...
