Punktmann, I had started a R with a woman, over the phone and I realized that I was still in love with my W even though I thought I was ready. We hadn't even gone on a date, and I could tell that I hurt her when I said that I couldn't. It hurt me to do that to another person, maybe more than it hurt her.
I don't know if my W will ever deal with her issues and, even if she does that, whether she would want to reconcile but it is really about me at this point and how I feel. I am not trying to sound self serving but in a case like this, it is better to realize my reasoning for wanting a R with someone and not use it as a form of band aid. In this case, I think it is something more compassionate not to lead someone on, regardless of my reasoning why I should date.
The last thing I want to do is to hurt someone else or to hurt my children.
I appreciate your posts, my friend.
mmf
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God