Maybe I should be in piecing part 4?

[Hope4us]

Thanks guys. I really appreciate it. I'm getting out of my funk. It was really quiet around the house last night. S16 was in his room most of the night doing homework and there wasn't much conversation between W and I. I was polite and smiled at her a number of times when she tried to start a conversation, but I just wasn't in the mood. I think she could tell not to push it and she didn't.

Funny thing is, I think the PMS'ing must about be over because she was different. Too bad I wasn't in the mood because I could tell she was in a better mood. But how long can I keep up with this stuff? I don't know. Maybe I'm dealing with a two headed monster, pre-mentapausal and WD from an affair. Guess it'll take patience I never knew I had.

I went to bed early and thought a lot. I think I'm going to just act "as if" we're going to make it until I know more about this transfer and then sit down and have "the talk". I'll share my feelings like you guys have suggested and see what she says. I'll be sure to express how I feel like us moving is the only hope our marriage has and if she doesn't want to play along, then she can figure out what she wants by herself.

You guys could be right about her not going anywhere. I remember a comment OMW made to me probably a year ago. She said that OM told her my W had said she would never leave me. I'm not sure I buy that as she talked about divorce a couple of times after that, but she's still here and still talking about our future so I guess I have to take that for what it is.

I was reading on another board the other day and a woman said it took her H a full year to de-fog. So I wonder if I'm just too impatient? Sometimes I wish we'd have never been intimate while on vacation. Prior to that I had detached so well and then we have that GREAT week and I think we're moving forward and BAM, setback when she goes back to work.

Oh well, thanks for proping me up. If I didn't have you guys to listen to me bit*h I'd have probably left a long time ago.

Oh, and one more thing. I remember reading quite a while ago when I was excited that I'd finally busted up the A and someone on another board told me "now the really hard part starts". I guess I never believed him at the time, but it's oh so true. Definitely harder at this point than when I KNEW who the enemy was.