If you truly love someone(thing) set it free. If he does not return, he was never truly yours. If he does, you will know it is because he wants to be there.
How many times do you have to do this in a lifetime of loving someone?
Bill every time I think I have reached the point of letting him go, he does something to draw me back. I let him. And round and round we go.
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Whether consciously or not, this man KNOWS that you are his. He KNOWS that you are going nowhere, that you are CAPABLE of going nowhere without him. And it is THIS knowledge that allows him to continue wandering, bouncing from here to there, trying this and that, with little concern that he is perhaps giving up something that will turn out to have been of great value to him.
Your are 100% correct. And trust me he is conscious.
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You shortchange yourself by continuing to believe that you CANNOT live without him.
No, I don't believe this. I believe that I am my own person. I don't need someone to survive. I can/will live just fine without my H. I just don't WANT to.
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You devalue your own worth as a person by believing that without him your life is somehow permanently disabled.
Disabled yes, changed yes, over no.
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How amazed would your husband be to one day realize that he never hears from you anymore. How amazed would he be to find that you no longer invite him to dinner, that you no longer ask to be involved in the things he is doing. Wouldn't that at least carry the potential to make him think for a minute.
Fear keeps me from finding out, but I am trying.
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And again, if he never comes back even with all that, he was never yours to begin with.
My H never was MINE. And IF he ever comes home, I want it to be for the RIGHT reasons, not out of guilt, or because of money, etc...This is was is pushing me to let go
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!
