FLTC, you don't have to do mediation!!! You can let the lawyers duke it out. However, that could be a lot more expensive. Just don't give your money away please! Even though it's not your top priority it shouldn't go to HER!!! The mediator I went to was very helpful in giving us financial advice and tax perspectives(from both our viewpoints). Does your mediator help at all with that? Just don't agree to anything until your lawyer reviews the proposed settlement!!!!! (again, I am saying this because I was a blubbering idiot when I faced my H and agreed to things that were to his advantage!!!)
I did a lot of reading.Checked out lots of library books.......things like Finances for Dummies series, and even do it your self divorces so I would feel more prepared. Wish I could remember names of helpful books. I did feel more empowered (although I still cried whenever I saw my H!!!)
No matter what it is a horrible experience(like Hill said it's worse than anything you dealt with in Iraq!!!) You WILL get through it, though!!!
