The next stage, maybe

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Julia,

WOw, so he emailed you over the weekend and wants to get estate agents round TODAY? How come? Is he still wanting to sell then? That would explain the 8 month holoday...you can pay it off when the house sells, if thats his ratoinal..but I dont see that you will be able to sell in this climate!?

You said he also said... "He asked me for the gas and electricity readings and he would call the company to reduce the bill.". Seriously Julia, I personally think its time to get some self respect here.. pay your own bills? Its not going to help your goal one little bit to make him stump up for half of your electricity, it might make him feel negative toward you. Be the bigger person... include in your email that you didnt give him the meter readings, as you will be settling those bills for yourself from now on?

I wouldnt say in your email that you really appreciate him taking the initiative.. he's doing it for himself. Hes taking action now as things have changed for him and become more pressing (he has 2 houses to maintain now, he's no longer dossing at his parents). Also, it just sounds too crawly to be honest. Be friendly, reduce guilt etc and all that, but dont be grateful just becuase he is taking care of his own responsibilities.

I had a similiar sitch.. my ex put the money in for our mortgage last week.. and I know he is with someone else. I didnt send an email like that, in fact, I didnt even refer to it with him, it just is what it is. He needs to pay his half, he paid his half. He didnt do it for me, he did it becuase he had to and to protect his assets.

Ok, DB, but with a little bit more self-respect ?? Yes push for a meeting.. perhaps your email over explains why you want to do that? I like your point that its annoying/hard to do by email.. how about saying you would appreciate it if he would meet with you to discuss it, rather than do it by email, which takes too long?

I hope I have helped and not hindered here! I went for a psychotherapy session just now, so thats probably influencing me! (I will post on my own thread about that....)

I am glad that the emails and texts have stepped up a bit, but he still hasnt referred to the more personal one you sent, has he? He really cant handle the truth ey!
Al x