Well, I had another email thrown at me yesterday asking for an answer that day. He realised that he had a day free tomorrow (today!) and wanted to know if he could come round and get estate agents round. The other thing was that he wanted to borrow some money from the joint account till some bonds came through. Then he mentioned about some guy we used to work with that he'd seen and what an idiot he still was. I emailed back and said no problems about the money, so long as there was enough in there to cover stuff (I do know he will pay it back) and while I could see this was a good opportunity to do stuff with the house I thought it would show better if it were cleaned and tidied and the garden was sorted a bit and I wouldn't have time to do this tonight. Then I validated how annoying that particular guy was and reminisced about an incident when he was particularly annoying.
I got a text later on that night saying thanks for replying and that he had made the payment and had checked there would still be enough money in there and he would repay it in 10 days. He asked me for the gas and electricity readings and he would call the company to reduce the bill.
So, this being proactive is all good - shame it took for him to move in with another woman to do it...
So, here is my proposed email for suggesting a meet up.
Hi H
How are you? Wow, things have stepped up a pace over the past couple of weeks. I really appreciate you taking the initiative, it is really helpful.
I think this would be a really good time for us to meet to discuss the options rather than one person proposing a solution that the other has to agree and it seems to take us forever by email. We could have a real brain-storming session and bash out all the possible options.
Let me know when is convenient. Julia
P.S - Maple disgraced herself at the vet last night; she yowled the whole way through and has somehow broken her toe on her bad foot. How I don't know as she hasn't been out for 6 weeks!! The vet also said she had a bit of a flabby tummy but otherwise was a good weight and very healthy. Maybe I should get a cat lead and take her out - can you imagine!
