Rob.... I just read through a lot of your threads...I had no idea we had so very much in common...In my case, it's not an OM that fills my wife with ideas about me as an abuser - but I do know that a friend of hers (who, herself was sexually abused as a child) was the first to tell my wife that I am an abusive husband...information which I got from my MIL and SIL - who, at the time, were both convinced that my W is chemically unbalanced...Now it seems that only my SIL is concerned for my W in that way - but SIL is so angry with my W's histrionics that she just doesn't want to talk deal with my W anymore..to top it off, my W apparently doesn't respond to texts, emails or phone calls from my SIL - and hasn't spoken with my SIL since SIL challenged my W's assertions that I am abusive husband...
A trip to SF is sounding better and better by the minute...My S11 will be with his mom this weekend (he just heard tonight that he made the all star team in his soccer league - and was also recruited for the tournament team). Also, since my MIL will be in town, my W asked me if she could have our baby with her more on Friday and Saturday...Saturday is my day with our son (though I do pick him up from day care every day).
...oddly enough, since I mentioned having someone present when we exchange our son, my W hasn't said anything about calling the police again...or claimed to be afraid of me...doesn't mean she's not up to something...she's just not throwing the threats at me in the same way.
I'm glad to see that you're in such a positive place, Rob...and reading through your thread, there's no doubt that you did everything you could...and that you always put your daughter first. Good man.
