Just wanted to thank you for posting to me last week. I am trying to catch up with your story.
I think you are doing a great job taking the high road with your H and I know you can woo him away from that "white trash". He probably knows it too and is embarrassed - hence his mood changes.
About trying to explain your H's behavior to your friends - I find that when they react with "that's crazy or I can't believe he's doing that" and I say well, it's textbook MLC, he's reading from a script - they look at me like I'm the crazy one!
Stay strong!
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Before H left, he asked about today's paper. I said we don't have a Monday paper anymore. H said Oh yeah, and took the classifieds from Sunday. I asked if he had talked to the lady about the duplexes, H said that she didn't come to the door, He had me look up her number and I wrote it down on the paper for him.
Silver Fox, Thanks for stopping by. Yes, I have told people that there is a book they all seem to read from and tell you everything from some MLC script that is floating around out there somewhere! SD just can't understand. She held her Dad and I to a much higher standard than her mom, and it is killing her he is acting more like her mom right now.
How was your Thanksgiving this year? How was the coast?
hey guys. Sorry I had to take a break. Shopping was good. H and I had the big talk last night. Most honest talk we have had in years. It is done, over, and I can't tell you what a relief it really is. We had such a good day today, shopping, buying my new laptop for Christmas. I know maybe it sounds a little surreal. Is for me. But there was no anger, some crying, and just a lot of positive stuff. We are going to wait until after the holidays to talk to S, but little is going to change right now. We are both comfortable with the living arrangement, finances, etc... No more sex which is a strange relief too. Sorry I have been absent, I was just gathering my thoughts.
And no sorry from anyone. This was both of us and both our choice.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
now, let's see if I can figure out the rigamarole in the hen house. I was told there was a whole buncha racket in here earlier. Keep it to a dull roar will yaaz.
Honor thy Father all day, everyday. Peace to you all and prayers of healing and restoration to yuz.
i don't think i am so inclined. i was just seeing if i could get anyones attn & it worked. I need to go read up on your sitch. I do not like the sounds of what you got going on. Don't be so hasty about shuttin any doors deary.
Hey Kel- I am glad you are in a good place. It sounds like a very peaceful place to be! We will support you in whatever you have decided. Glad your shopping was fun!! Have a great day!!
