Based upon her extreme worry of you "outing her", I think it is a good view to have. She needs to be snapped out of the fog or it will be a long, long road. Make sure you have all ways of knowing where she is at all times (Puppy will help you with how to do this), and be prepared for extreme withdrawal and possible slip up. At the same time, make sure she agrees to REtrouvaille, counselings, book reading/discussions, etc.
We will be here for you. Let me suggest you move to the Infidelity Forum once this thread locks. Lots of support for you there.
