At two different points he got another call and switched over to take it. The first was from his friend J, his best guy friend from college. After that call when he clicked back over, I asked if I should let him go, and he said not at the moment but that "someone" was coming to pick him up soon and he'd need to go when "they" got there. Later on he got another call and when he switched back over he said he was still trying to figure out how to switch from call to call on his new phone, a blackberry which he bought secondhand from his friend H over the summer. I asked him if he was addicted to his blackberry (he used to joke about the violist in his quartet being addicted to his "crackberry") and he said no, but he'd rather have an Iphone, but he didn't want to switch providers. Then he said that he needed to go/simulatneously while I asked if he needed to go, and I said, OK, have a beautiful evening! He said that he would call me soon. And I said take care, and then we said bye and hung up.
Overall it was good. No real awkwardness, and it felt more "normal" than previous conversations, because he was telling me about everyday stuff in his life. It made me nervous that he didn't tell me who was picking him up or where he was going, but I guess that is normal. I felt like I talked more than previous conversations, which might have explained the lower awkwardness level, but was less of a 180 for me. I was hoping that I'd get a chance to casually mention I'd be in new york in december, so that in our next conversation he could either ask me when I'd be there, or I could ask him. I didn't get to mention it in this conversation, but that's OK... my plans are really flexible, and if need be I can even go to NYC in January if he's not there in December.
Since I'm going to be in NYC possibly as soon as the 15th, I think I'll wait a week and if B hasn't gotten back to me then, I will contact him to try to make plans.
What do you think?
thanks again for your loving, affirming encouragement!! thank you to anyone who actually read all of this!
