Thanks AMyC T'gone. The main problem here is the affair, that is why i refuse to look at any "signs" from her because it is all meaningless until it ends. I picked up my d17 and we had a talk about nothing. I never mentioned her mother, never asked a single question. It was a first for me, but I had to make sure i did it. It wasn't so hard. I told my D17 not to make plans for saturday, i am taking her into boston for the day, it wil do us both good.
Line dancing was good tonight and i got asked why I am not married or with anyone. Mentioned my separation status and that we are going through something, they just smiled, they're all women, they know what that meant. they told me i'd get through it, just stay cool and don't let her get to you. Sounds like familiar advice.
i thought long and hard tonight about my situation, her continued affair and my recent "detachment". I believe my resentment and anger towards the affair should help me detach without it being an act. i have to communicate with her twice in the next 3 weeks, both times involves making sure I get the car ins money. Then i suppose I'll have to say merry Xmas to her at my Daughters house and again at my FILs house. Other than that, I'll be good till my grandson's b'day in April.
Unless something major happens those are the next two times and four times i need to speak to her in the next 5 months. I am sure I will not have a problem now that this is behind me. Keeping watching my back though, i need it.
