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[techguy]

Thanks for the positive words, AN.

I have become more and more certain that one of the biggest indicators of potential success is the ability to detach.

You need to feel good... you need it to show PMA around the spouse and you need to feel good before you can make significant changes. You just can't make big changes if you're depressed.

It's just too hard for anyone to consistently feel good if they are attached to fog-based, negativity spewing WAS.

In this regard, I feel that the seperaton I've had with wife has been a positive. It gives me the distance to detach. I think it would be harder in your situation where wife is around all the time (except for now).

So perhaps you should spend some time thinking about how you will get some distance from wife when she returns. I know you want time together to 'work it'. But you should also find ways to have some alone time to GAL and recover your well-being and positive state of mind.