Hey BBJ, Just got in the Hotel room and what do I do...straight for DB...to check out what is new with my friend's sitches. It looks like it is a landslide.... {(BBJ)} I was confronted with a similar situation a while ago as you may recall...continue to live under the same roof or leave. It was extremely difficult and I had to do it twice! However, leaving the first time did give me the opportunity to give it another shot (it has not worked out but I did get the shot). It is obvious to everyone that the status quo is not working out....you have to change something...it may or may not turn out the way you want to but if you continue to live under the same roof, it won't get better anytime soon. We are not there with you, we only can read you..... but how much longer can you tolerate his behaviour in the hope that he will change his mind / ways one morning. The time has come for change...actually it is long overdue.