I have to admit I am a bit confused by your husbands behavior. I get it, sort of, but I don't. I think some guys, me included, use sex as a way to take the temperature of a relationship...if she will do me, then things can't be too bad. So that is one thing. He may be fishing, albeit clumsily. Next, guys DO just like to get laid so there is that. When guys get rejected, they can react badly...plus remember I told you about guys looking for quick fixes, your husband may be thinking he as put in the proper amount of work so let's have some holiday action. Was there any booze involved in these situations? That could help explain his really boneheaded response to getting shut down, in a pretty gentle fashion considering the circumstances.
I think you handled yourself great. It really sounds like you are trying to do the right thing(s).
You know what, if I were talking to your husband, I might consider suggesting a DB coach. Kind of a lot of money to spend but relative to divorce, it is still a bargain. Also, still consider the Keeping Love Alive DVDs.
I am not a salesman and get no commission. The book kept me from getting divorced. The DVDs for some reason communicated things that my wife wouldn't hear from me. I think they would help both of you. The coaching was a waste for me and our situation. I still have two sessions left. I think they could help your husband though. I wonder if they can be transferred. They are already payed for and I doubt I will ever use them.
Hopefully he will read the book. I am hoping he reads it before you leave.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
