Wow, that really sounds positive....she is willing to move with you......there is nothing there holding her back? You will be ok Woog regardless of what goes on around you.
So, I'm sitting tonight and I need John to remind me to be positive. I am letting my mind run to negative thoughts. Today did go well. I just need to continue to focus on the positives in my life.
I also need to reassess my definition of success. I'm working on it.
Woog - pretty strange the similar path our X's have gone through ehh? Living outside the marriage only to discover that what they once had with the marriage was probably pretty darn good.
Hey Woog....you don't need me or anybody else to remind you that you are very succesful and that you are a good man by anyone's standards. I am sure that although you are willing to take the blame for a portion of the "less than successful" part of your life, we can not decide for other people....try as we may. Here is to your future success regardless of how you decide to measure it.
I know I don't post much to you, but I have been trying to keep up with reading your thread.
Wanted to tell you that you are a good man. It comes through in your writing, in the stories you take the time to share with us. You are thoughtful and considerate. And you have a measure of humility that is so sorely lacking in much of our world today.
But the thing that screams out to me the most is that you are a FATHER. You love your children, you want the best for them, and I could tell that it was literally ripping at you to think of leaving them, especially for something as banal as a job.
What I found through my little DB journey was that it is very easy for priorities to get skewed in our lives. The loss of such a significant part of our identity (our marriage) really pushes us to pare down our lives and focus on the things that are most important and precious. Like you, I found that just about everything in my life was forsakeable except for my boys. Anything else, I knew I could live without. But not those two boys.
Your ex-wife delivered a true blessing to you with the words and thoughts she shared with you. It seems to me that she is understanding the quality of the man that she felt the need to leave behind. Trust me my friend, that is a gift to you. Odd that despite our unacceptableness as a husband, so many of our wives are adamant that we are good, strong fathers to our children. Always seemed a bit contradictory to me.
Anyway, just wanted to offer you encouragement during an unsettled time.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
Hey Woog.. I said things can change on a sixpence hey? I was amazed at that revelation from your W.. that not only was Nick not worth much, not worth staying around for, that she would move the kids to be near you... but that she felt happoier now just because she had to change SOMETHING. Gosh, its all so cliched isnt it, but there were so many positives in what she said to you and you must feel vindicated on some level?
As for Pisceans..well I know two, both born the same week and year as me.. and I cannot tell what is going to happen for any of us!!! THere are a lot of messy sitches.. I am in love with my ex, who is with someone else, my Pisces friend is possibly in love with me and you know what I mean... its a fish soup !!!
In January.. there are 2 eclipses end Jan/beg Feb. In Aquarius and Leo. This affects me, as I have a Leo moon.. as for you, there is still more oppositions of Uranus and Saturn (soon and next year)...so it aint over yet, whatever it is.
I am finding it hard to 'see' whats around the corner, just more change I think. Uranus is the planet of chaos and disorder and crazy.. but he's also the planet of excitement and sparking electricity and eureeka! moments.. so there will hopefully be something worth leaping out of the bath for soon !?
I am watching us all, closely, we are like a 'control' experiment for astrology, as we are all experiencing similiar things.. my pisces friend even said he felt "in limbo".. and he is still M! Single, M, complicated.. we are all feeling it.
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Nothing new to report here today on my existing job. One more day in limbo. On the positive front I received three calls from recruiters today. One of which sounds great and in a small world twist is working for someone I know from a prior company.
Bworl and Ali, thank you both for your support and kind words. It really does make a difference that people like you guys take the time to offer compassion and support. I was talking with an old friend of my today and after I got done filling him in on my situation all I heard was silence. Then he said "man, you have had a sh*tty year haven't you." It made me laugh and it felt good. Smiles and laughter are rare for me lately. I am lucky to have friends who always seem to say the right things to get me to smile. One in particular.
Life goes on....
Btw, Bworl, "ripping" at me is quite the right way of expressing how I feel when I think about leaving them.
