How was it signing the final divorce judgment? That strikes terror in my heart... well not terror.. but something that isn't rainbows and butterflies.
We all make choices. A question I try and ask myself is what is best for the kids, how will this effect the kids. That gives me direction.
As deeply as you care for your girlfriend (and even saying girlfriend sounds insufficient based on how you describe her) should not wanting to hurt her and her daughter override what is best for your children?
Your spouse has been with the other guy during the whole process. That was no secret. You gave your word to your wife that you would not date until after the divorce. That meant something to her. Maybe choosing to date shook her up, slapped the cold fish of reality across her face. Maybe she lost her 'out', her get out of the affair and return to the relationship free card.
This is a decision you make, not one you have validated.
And that said.. You can do anything you want to. It's all your choice.
