"So, W got home last night, found some food, and watched a movie with the gang before coming into the room. And said, in a very flat voice.... You bought a new comforter? You bought new sheets? Then I took the dog out. I got back in, she was getting in bed, she seemed to be looking for something, so I asked if there was something wrong. She kind of grunted, I said, "Sorry, I thought you were looking for something" Then she said... "Can I turn off the light?" That was the entire extent of her comments."
.. she just seems so entrenched in her position, its a defence mechanism, or a wall, she is not too near to breaking it down yet is she. I wonder if one level she isnt a little mad at you for the changes you have made? She was comfortable in the stance she had taken against you.. she had given up on you and your M and I dont suppose she expected anything, or you to change? And then you did.. and you kept makinmg changes and now you have asked something of HER.. and I wonder if she isnt a bit mad at you for that, for pushing her out of that safe comfort zone she has been in for years...? You keep pushing though! You are the eternal optimist, I am sure others would have given up and had an A a long time ago, so all credit to you...
She doesnt realise how lucky she is!!!
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
