The situation with my D17 last night has done this , no doubt and then all the communications. I have pushed ahead. D17 went to her house, house is peaceful. I am calm and back to my resolve from last week. Thanks for the 2x4. I have to remember that everyone is on the roller coaster and i can't get on any of the cars, because ultimately it is still her ride. Need to focus more on detraching this week.