Wanting her back is not slipping That is a big part of the reason you've done the work you've done on you. Of course you want her back. But you can't force it and if you do you are liable to go back to square one.

Detaching from the situation is a tool which makes it easier to get this done. You're not detaching and you are being sucked back into the drama. Too much communication with too many people concernig their rendition of what is going on. That is counter productive drama. Detach!

Slipping would be if you fold up right now after all the work, effort and time and give in to her OR let others suck you into the drama.

Me- 47
W- 45
Married 22 years
Together 30 years
No Kids, 1 dog, 1 Cat
2005 - 2007 W in MLT
1/08 - Crisis hits
3/08 W drops Bomb and leaves in the middle of the night. Admits to PA
4/08 W files for divorce
8/08 Divorce final