I Challenged Him to Decide...

[optimistwife]

Thank god I lucked out and got a session with Jody this morning. I needed it. I always feel better after talking to her, no matter what. She didn't feel that what I did was the worst, as I didn't actually give an ultimatum (just feels like it to me)but put my feelings out there.

We went through things he may be trying to get my notice with and trying to control things. She did point out not to expect him to respond to the e-mail. I kind of expected that after reading about most other peoples posts. She told me that he may be hanging around and afraid that if we get back together things will go back to the same, and that I am fulfilling that.

She pointed out that by me working T-giving, I was retreating from spending special time with him. Not that I had to work, but that I didn't make a special experience afterwards- our own celebration. She said its not too late to do this and make is special.

So- I kind of broke my own idea of waiting for him to respond and I texted him to pick a day this week and I am coming to visit him for dinner. I am going to pack a Thanksgiving picnic and surprise him. I am going to get a card game or something for us to play together. I am going to try to make it fun and special and time for us to celebrate and give thanks.

He did text back that should be okay. Then later he called and he picked wednesday. We chatted for a while and kept it light. No mention of anything e-mail related. I got in as many boosting comments as I could (recommended by Jody- build him up, this is what he is looking for).

Okay- feeling slightly better. Oh- and a 6 session packet is on sale for anyone interested. I will need these, and we discussed how it would work if H was willing to participate. Not sure if we are there yet, but wanted to find out the details. This way I have plenty of sessions to share.